This is some the information i gathered up and i can really relate to this information about a pathological lair :
Pathological liar is someone who compulsively tells lies or fabricates information out of habit. They may not be completely rooted in reality, believing the lies they tell, often in an effort to remedy low self-esteem. To spot a pathological liar, pay attention to their behavior and body language, such as excessive eye contact. Also, listen for any inconsistencies in their stories. Problems like substance abuse and a history of unstable relationships are all additional indications someone may be a pathological liar. According to Psychology Today, while compulsive, pathological lying has no “official diagnosis,” it is associated with a range of personality disorders, such as borderline, narcissist and antisocial. The sociopathic/narcissistic pathological liar has no moral qualms about lying which makes it easy to look someone in the eye and tell a bold-faced lie. Some pathological liars believe their lies; living in a fantasy world that they’ve constructed. In other cases of pathological lying, the liar experienced trauma early in life and began lying as a coping mechanism, and, at some point, lying became more comfortable and “truthful” to them than the truth. Some pathological liars may be actively trying to gain sympathy in a situation. They may tend to exaggerate or make up pains and illnesses, for example, or exaggerate small issues in their lives to ridiculous proportions in order to gain sympathy from anyone. Pathological liars may also have low self-esteem. They may lie to make themselves look more important than they truly are. They may exaggerate accomplishments in personal or professional areas in order to make their lives seem impressive and worthy. In this case, they may be lying to convince themselves rather than to mislead you. Some pathological liars simply lie out of boredom. They will fabricate events and make up lies to hurt others. This creates drama, alleviating boredom in the pathological liar's life. Some pathological liars may enjoy the attention that they get from others by telling extravagant stories about themselves. In order to keep up appearances, they may spin larger and more complicated lies. Pathological liars may often get caught lying. Frequently, you may hear someone else's story retold as if it happened to a pathological liar. If something about a story sounds familiar to you, stop to consider whether you've heard that story before. When confronted, a pathological liar may find a way to avoid answering a question. Pathological liars are manipulative by nature, so you may think they've answered something when they really have failed to do so Pathological liars are experts at manipulating others. They tend to study others to find ways to divert their attention away from their lies. Pay attention to how a pathological liar interacts with you. You may Detect subtle manipulation. No two pathological liars are the same. However, most of them will react aggressively when caught in a lie. If someone seems to get angry in response to accusations of lying, you may be dealing with a pathological liar. Reacting with anger is another technique used by pathological liars You try to have an open discussion about something that just isn't adding up, and that person erupts in a rage. You immediately shut down. At first maybe you're upset and pissed right back. But then, when it becomes clear that your friend is not backing down from there volcanic rage, you become nervous you've somehow gone too far and pushed them over the edge. You even apologize to them for making them so angry and find yourself being more careful in the future to not set them off I personally dealt with this on a daily basis with this person i called a friend , and this person would hide there anger around others and try and turn it on me it was always my fault. If you have seen your friend unflinchingly and convincingly tell a lie to someone else, stop right there; you are dealing with a stone cold liar. You may try to rationalize that they would never lie to you, in fact, they only lied to protect you! But if they can lie to someone else with ease, they can, and will, do it to you. Pathological liars will often lie about small, unimportant things that may leave you scratching your head. Pay attention to these supposedly insignificant lies. Ron Schouten, author of Almost a Psychopath, describes a pathological liar who lied “about little things, like what he had had for dinner the night before.” The take away? A liar is a liar. Period. There are different types and levels of lying, but if you suspect that anyone in your life is a pathological liar, talk to a counselor or therapist. Your primary care physician is also a great resource. Every case is different; determine what is safe for you and your situation. Keep in mind though that pathological liars rarely, if ever, change their ways, and so my advice is to seek help for yourself first. If you determine that your pathological liar is also on the psychopathy spectrum, your only recourse is having no contact and cutting off any and all contact do not fall for the excuses guilt and pity and lies in my situation this person i tried to get out my life numerous times this person would lie manipulate control guilt me into allowing them back into my life and tell me what i wanted to hear there like leeches they will latch on and they will suck the life right out of you leaving you confused and disappointed , and honestly the mental emotional verbal psychological and psychical abuse this person put me through has caused me a great deal of anxiety stress panic , and flash backs nightmares i am scared when my phone rings or someone knocks on my door pathological lairs are all about control , and they will stop at no cost to get there way , and they will lie and lie its honestly scary people like this exist in this world and that is why i wanted to write this post , and bring this subject up and share some information because i did not know until i started seeing the signs and symptoms , and i was so brain washed with the lies but i am glad i have the blinders off and see clearly and see what an affect its put on me , and i removed this person from my life but its also made me into a stronger, deeper, and more empathetic person. While breaking free from the pathological liar may feel impossible, you must take steps to distance yourself from them as soon as possible your sanity, physical health mental health and future happiness having a pathological lair in your life is unhealthy and toxic person to have in your life for a normal person but a person with mental illness my self it was pure hell and that is why i broke free and i did not see what i see now , and i am glad i did my research , and read up on pathological lairs because like i said they can have you so controlled , manipulated , and brain washed , and they will do nothing but drag you down with there lies.
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